by Clarence Boyd on November 16th, 2017

​Many people assume that they could live without some things. In fact, this assumption is not just limited to things. We live in a society today that has become accustomed to living without things and people. The Fatherless Generation website shares the following statistics:
  • 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes (US Dept. Of Health/Census) – 5 times the average.
  • 90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes – 32 times the average.
  • 85% of all children who show behavior disorders come from fatherless homes – 20 times the average (Center for Disease Control)80% of rapists with anger problems come from fatherless homes – 14 times the average. (Justice & Behavior, Vol. 14, p. 403-26)
  • 71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes – 9 times the average (National Principals Association Report) 
This same report sheds light on ‘the father factor in education.’ The following are some examples:
  • Fatherless children are twice as likely to drop out of school.
  • Children with Fathers who are involved are 40% less likely to repeat a grade in school.
  • Children with Fathers are 70% less likely to drop out of school.
  • Children with Fathers who are involved are more likely to get A’s in school.
  • Children with Fathers who are involved are more likely to enjoy school and engage in extracurricular activities.
  • 75% of all adolescent patients in chemical abuse centers come from fatherless homes – 10 times the average. 
These are but a few examples of the impact fathers have on the family and in the lives of their children. These statistics validate the premise that the absence of a man in the home has devastating effects on children, not to mention wives and women in general. As a society, we cannot afford to lose additional generations of men. What can be done to turn this reality around? Our communities can no longer afford to ignore the collateral consequences resulting from the absence of the man in the context of relationships.
From a biblical perspective, the man is central to the fulfillment of God’s purpose for the family and for society at large.  From the first chapter of Genesis we know that God created things with seed in them.  (Gen. 1:12) The Bible confirms that everything with seed in it was to reproduce after its own kind. (Gen. 1:13) Thus we can deduce that life is in the seed, and it is obvious that the seed is in the man. Therefore, if you get rid of the man, you have also gotten rid of the family. There would be no family without the man. The enemy’s strategy is not limited to getting rid of the man, but also to eliminate the family.  The seed represents the source of life. God is the source of all creation. As a result, God is responsible for everything He has created.  God sustains every created thing because He is the source of it. Every created thing depends on God for its life and existence. This is why God takes care of the birds of the air and the lilies of the valley.
In a similar sense, the man is also responsible for everything he is the source of.  Therefore, if the man is absent as a father, we know the devastating consequences this reality will have on his family. This fact cannot be overlooked and his absence cannot be ignored.  Thus the conclusion is always the same: “Manhood cannot be hidden.”

by Clarence Boyd on September 23rd, 2017

​It is evident that most of us have grown up under the influence of independence. Man’s sinful nature promotes the mentality that he or she can do things alone.  Men and women remain convinced that they can navigate life’s terrain all by themselves. Many individuals operate independently of biblical truth. They have replaced God’s truth about order, unity, and headship with philosophies that fit better with their dispositions and feelings. Everyone seems to be moving in the direction of independence.  Parents raise their children to become independent. The world bombards women with the spirit of independence resulting in a misconception of the value of relationships and the roles of the man and the woman.
The battle to fully discern the impact of the influence of independence has resulted in the compromise of the marriage relationship as the cornerstone of our society.  The spirit of independence has challenged the traditional family and fueled the reality called “the absentee father.” Underlying the exaltation of independence is the increasing deterioration of our communities, our cities, and our nation. It is the male-man that has been injured most by this epidemic.  The man has grown apart from his brother, his family, and even himself.  Boys don’t know their fathers. Young men lack authentic and genuine examples of what it means to be a man in today’s world. The church is no exception. The man is visibly absent here as well. There has to be an answer to this challenge; and whatever that answer is, the man must be involved. In fact, the man must lead in the restoration of the family, relationships, and play a significant part in the future of the church.
In the Book of Beginnings, the Father of all creation addressed this reality. He shared His answer to this problem. From the beginning, God had a response for the pain men, and women suffer today. His answer has not changed.  The Lord has not altered His strategy.  His Word rings true through the ages and if applied, will work in this present day context. Genesis 2:18 reveals the answer. “And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.” God realized that mankind, men, and women, would need help. It was never the intent of God that men and women would operate independently of His influence. It was never the Father’s will that men and women would live independently of each other. God knew that most things involving mankind would require relationships.   From the beginning, God revealed that man was better off with a helper. Man would function better with someone else to help him. The man’s need was so important to God that He made it His priority to make someone comparable to him.
God created Adam to exemplify the kind of leadership necessary to respect order, promote relationship, and preserve unity.  Every man lives for this purpose. Each man is accountable to God for his own life. But the man’s responsibility was never meant to begin and end with him. No man can fulfill the will of the Father alone. The man must learn this lesson first. The man’s mentality must change if he is to represent the Father's ways to others truly. God taught the man that relationships are valuable. The Father revealed to the man that being alone was not his best option. God reveals this revelation to the man over and over again. The man must first know this revelation and then respect it. Every man must realize that he was never meant to be alone.  When men internalize this revelation, they are then positioned to admit their need for help humbly. 

​When men realize their need for help, their marriage will be better. When men admit their need for help, the family will be stronger.  And when men accept the fact that they need help, they will also be better. Some things were never meant to be done alone!

by Clarence Boyd on July 19th, 2017

​The question is not so much “whether a man has influence?’ The more important question will always be: “Was the man meant to have influence?” It seems apparent today that men don’t seem to have influence or their influence has been minimized. This appears to be the norm because many men today have grown up witnessing their influence being compromised.  Too many men feel as though their input is not necessary and have taken a back seat when, in reality, they were created to lead. Leadership has always been about influence. The one who is doing the leading is the one who has the influence.  It is obvious that no man will always be the leader. He will have others in his life who have influence where he is concerned. Although this is true, the man is still responsible to lead.
The word—influence is defined as: a) the power to change or effect someone or something, b) the power to cause changes without directly forcing them to happen, and c) a person or thing that effects someone or something in an important way. In the book of Numbers 13:31 it reveals: “But the men who had gone up with him said, we are not able to go up against the people, for they are stronger than we.” This is the message they proclaimed to the entire nation of Israel while they were at the door of the Promised Land. This moment in time serves as a testimony of the power of influence. Let us also be reminded that twelve men, representing each of the twelve tribes, had been chosen to spy out the land and return with a report for the people. Ten of those who went representing their respective tribe came back with a negative report. It is evident that they did not realize the power of a man’s influence.
The confusion comes when men fail to lead and then use their influence in ways contrary to who they are supposed to be. If a man does not realize that he is a leader, he will have no discernment concerning the weight of his influence. When men are confused about their leadership the result will always be the misuse of influence. These men who spied out the land allowed their influence to affect the future of a nation. Without forcing anyone, they caused the nation of Israel to miss the will of God. As a result, the majority of those living never entered into the land promised to them. They died in the wilderness and the succeeding generation entered the Promise Land in their place. This revelation is relevant even today because the absence of male leadership, or the loss of a man’s influence will have similar consequences in this present age.
It must be noted that when the people came under the influence of misguided leadership they turned on their current leadership and demanded a leader of their choosing. This is a dangerous place to find oneself in because God will never bless this kind of leadership. God’s response to the people serves as a testament that leadership is absolutely critical when it comes to following His will. This is the responsibility of the man! The man was created alone from the dirt and is the only one commanded by God. This means that he is not only responsible to represent the will of the Father, he is also accountable. Put bluntly, he is to lead.
The good news is that there were also men who represented the heart of the Father. Caleb and Joshua gave a good report of the land, but their influence was missed by the people because they had already come under the influence of the other ten spies. It is our responsibility to raise up leaders—men who are aware that they are accountable to God for how they use their influence. Husbands cannot take for granted the responsibility they have, but use their influence wisely when it comes to their wives. Fathers must see beyond the moment realizing that their failure to guide correctly could jeopardize the futures of their own children.  There will always be giants in the way, but that is simply where they are! They are in the way. May every man, under the influence of the Holy Spirit, share the will of God in such ways that their wives, families, and associates will validate their leadership by following them!

by Clarence Boyd on May 9th, 2017

​“Then God said, Let us make man in our image, in our likeness, and let them rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air, over the livestock, over all the earth, and over all the creatures that move along the ground.” (Gen. 1:26) It is apparent that man was always in the mind of the Creator. From the beginning God had man in mind. When the Father began creating the world, He knew man was necessary and that he would have a significant role to play in His plan.  Man was always important to the Father and to His will.
Notice that when the Father made His declaration to make man in his image and likeness, the Bible reveals that He had “them” in mind. Here the word for man is technically referring to mankind. In other words, God is not referring to a singular person, but rather to both the man and the woman.  He is literally talking about humanity. The point being made is that no man or woman could be responsible for humanity alone. Both the man and the woman are required if the goal is to produce the human race. We know this to be true because it is confirmed in the Book of Beginnings: “God blessed them and said to them, be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air and over every living creature that moves on the ground.” (Gen. 1:28)
This is very important because God created someone to fulfill His divine purpose. Nothing was created by God without His purpose in mind. Everything created by God was designed to fulfill his purpose for creating it. God was very specific about everything he created. Whether big or small, every created thing had a place where it fit and a contribution to make.  God did not create anything to be wasted. Everything was unique and important to God because no other created thing could fulfil another created thing’s purpose. Everything created was created to fulfil its own purpose.
From the beginning it must be understood that God created everything.  He is the source of all creation. In his Gospel, John testifies of this truth by revealing: “Through him all things were made; without him nothing was made that has been made.” (John 1:3) Simply put, God is the source of every created thing. In addition, God is the revealer of the purpose for everything thing made, including man! Therefore, one can safely deduce that there was a divine purpose for God creating man as male and female. “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female He created them.” (Gen. 1:27)
God created “him.” Put another way, God created the man. However, it is confirmed that whatever God was creating had to represent the Creator. Man was created to represent the image of God.  God is God all by Himself.  He is whole and He is one! When God created man, he created him whole and as one. So in the man was humanity. We know this to be true because in the man was also the woman. The woman was necessary if humanity was to become a reality. So God created him, the man, as male and female because this couple represented his image, his order, and his purpose.
Any response related to what God made—when he made man—must be addressed in the context in which man was made.  He was made as male and female. This is a topic of great discussion today and every man and woman must come to a realization of truth. Truth does not stand alone, it too has a source. The source of truth will always be more important than how truth is interpreted. May we always respect the source more than the interpretation.  This revelation will help us better understand what God made when he created man!

by Clarence Boyd on April 2nd, 2017

“Does the Lord delight in burnt offerings and sacrifices as much as in obeying the Lord? To obey is better than sacrifice, and to heed is better than the fat of rams. For rebellion is like the sin of divination, and arrogance like the evil of idolatry. Because you have rejected the Word of the Lord, He has rejected you as king.” 1 Samuel 15:22-23
In every man there is a king! One might assume from this revelation that since kings have kingdoms, so do men.  These verses testify of the life of Saul who was king over God’s people, Israel.  These verses also reveal that every king’s leadership will be tested.  Every man must respect the fact that even though he has been given authority, he is still under authority.
King Saul made the mistake of choosing to be led by the people rather than leading them. Put another way, the people influenced the king verses the king influencing them. However, the greater mistake was that the king listened to the people instead of heeding the Word of the Lord.  This is the challenge that any leader, and all men, face—who to listen to!
It is obvious that this has been a problem since the beginning. Adam, the first man created by God, also made the mistake of listening to Eve and suffered the same consequence. Adam was banished from the Garden of Eden while Saul was rejected as king. These men serve as examples to other men of how weighty their decisions can be. Every man should take seriously how he represents leadership.
“Notice that God gave His instructions to Saul, and he was to represent God’s will to the people. This was a test of leadership, and God expected Saul to lead. Personal leadership has to do with obedience while corporate leadership is always about vision. God does not just look at what one does in obedience, but also the way in which one does it. This has to do with the ability of the leader to cast God’s vision to the people.” (Page 36)
May every man take heed who he listens to and may every man respect the voices he hears. Then may every man know the voice of God and obey that voice above all others. This is imperative because the only thing at stake is the loss of his kingship and the forfeiture of his kingdom.

by Clarence Boyd on March 7th, 2017

Whether one realizes it or not, everything in life comes with a cost. In short, nothing is free. There is a price connected to everything. We often associate price to material things. As a result, one might save until he or she has enough money to purchase the item desired; or the item desired may be purchased using credit. However, the point being made is that whatever is desired will always come with a cost.
In contrast, there may also be other things in life that have a price attached to them, but these things cannot be obtained with money or possessed as a result of using credit. In reality, these things can only be realized by using another kind of currency. They cannot be obtained or purchased using a visa or a master card. The cost of these things is beyond natural means.
If the truth were told, no human being is the manufacturer of manhood.  No man or woman holds a patent on this product. There is no company that has a corner on this market.  Although manhood is of great value, no one possesses enough to own it. The price of manhood is far beyond the limitations of money or the availability of credit. The price of manhood supersedes the natural realm in that it has always had a spiritual origin. Therefore, manhood still evades the skill of any entrepreneur. The price of manhood remains divine.
Manhood cost so much that it has always been under attack. Because manhood carries so much weight the man has come under attack. Generations of men have failed to realize the significance of manhood while generations of women have overlooked its importance. Even our present culture seems committed to the destruction of its purpose and the compromise of its identity. All of this seems to be transpiring while no one entertains what life would be like in the absence of the man!
Once again the time has come for men to teach boys that there is a cost associated with manhood. The moment is now for fathers to reveal to their sons that manhood must first be realized. Every boy must innately internalize the truth that he must become a man! When it comes to manhood the real price is paid by the man himself as opposed to the things he can provide. One respected man, one true father, or one committed husband will always be worth more than anything money can buy.

by Clarence Boyd on February 18th, 2017

In Genesis 2:15 the Bible reveals: “The Lord took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it.” At this time the man was the only one physically in the garden.  There was no other human being there with him.  He was alone with his Creator. It was at this time that God gave him instructions that would forever portray his commitment to the Word of the Lord. God put Adam in a place uniquely prepared for him. His responsibility was clear—he was to work the garden and to take care of it. The KJV interprets his responsibility this way: “he was to dress it and keep it.” The Amplified Bible reads: “he was to tend and guard and keep it.” Regardless of the interpretation, it is clear that the man was responsible for the garden and everything in it.
It must be noted that the woman was not yet in the garden physically, but she was in the man. It is evident that the time would come when the woman would join the man in the garden. However, until that time came it was imperative that the man learned his lessons well.  He must master tending the garden. This work means to pay attention and to apply oneself.  He was also responsible to guard the garden. The word guard implies that someone is responsible to carefully be on watch for possible danger, threats, or problems. A further meaning involves a person whose job or duty is to watch and protect someone or something. Thus we conclude that Adam was responsible to keep the garden as God had created it. The man knew the Lord’s expectations because he received them directly.
Every man must realize this responsibility while understanding the value of this lesson. God had entrusted to man His creation. He was to manage it, but never alone. It was the original intent of the Creator that both the man and the woman would oversee this responsibility together. However, this would require that the woman understand the commands of the Lord in the same way the man did.  Adam’s responsibility was to communicate more than just words spoken to him, he was to represent the leadership of the one who had spoken to him. Hindsight reveals that Adam shared the words, but did not maintain the order. His greatest challenge was the woman and the failure took place on his watch.  Men must realize that the mandate to work and take care of the garden is still his greatest priority.  May men today take to heart their duty to watch and protect their wives and children so that the mistake is not repeated on their watch.

by Clarence Boyd on January 17th, 2017

It is always this time of the year that we think of change. This is especially true during the change from one year to the next. As men, this represents another opportunity to make a greater difference in our own lives, in the lives of our families, and the future of our children. No one wants another year to pass by without any significant change. This is not only the cry of every man, but also the prayer of every wife and the hope of every child. They need there to be a change in the men in their lives. They are acutely aware that circumstances have little or no potential to change without covering in their lives.
Every man has the opportunity to be a better father or husband depending on his situation. Regardless of the particulars, there is room for change and the need for improvement. No man can afford to be comfortable with his present situation or take for granted his current experience. Each man should approach this New Year as an opportunity to become better, to do more, and to go further. There is a child who is depending on a man to show up as a father while there is a wife expecting her husband to come through. They desperately need to realize this change now as opposed to later.
Nothing rarely changes by itself nor is much accomplished alone. In this New Year let us not only pray, but also encourage the men in our experiences to become the change that is so desperately needed. In this New Year we can all safely assume that something needs to change. As men, may our focus be on what we need to do to make the change needed a reality. This will only happen when we focus on the changes that we need to make as men and not continue to blame others for the lack of change that we desire. This is not only what true leadership looks like, but also what it requires. Let that “something that needs to be changed” in this New Year be the men who are so needed by those who love and depend on them!

by Clarence Boyd on December 11th, 2016

The season of Christmas magnifies the truth that men are supposed to provide covering. Covering is not just a responsibility, but also a calling. Be reminded that everything God created was intended to be covered. The Lord, Himself, exemplifies this calling by taking the responsibility to cover everything He created. It is a fact that God takes care of all of His creation. Nothing is overlooked or missed when it comes to the sustaining power of the Creator. God takes care of every flower, all the birds of the air, and every human being.  God has proven His faithfulness to all by taking care of both “the just and the unjust.” 
Jesus, like His Father, serves as the original example of covering. No one could cover all that the Father created but Jesus. Only God could cover the sins of all mankind. It was for this very purpose that Jesus came into the world. No one could shed his or her blood for the forgiveness of sins other than Jesus. In short, Jesus covered all of mankind by sharing man’s humanity, by being subjected to the temptation of the flesh, and ultimately by dying to pay the price for mankind’s redemption. In this Christmas season we are reminded of the Father’s great love and the Son’s unbelievable sacrifice. All of this was done with covering as the motive. All of this was initiated by the Creator on behalf of the created.
Every man, every father, is encouraged to follow God’s example when it comes to covering.  Like God, every man is not only responsible to cover those he has fathered, but also to take care of the woman who is the mother of his children. This was always meant to be more than a responsibility. It remains a divine calling! Covering is a cornerstone of manhood. The absence of the covering of fathers has proven to cause unimaginable consequences for both women and children. In this season of Christmas may every man and every father be convicted of his responsibility to provide covering and become the gift so desperately needed by mothers and families. If men would fulfill their calling to provide covering this would truly become a Very Merry Christmas! Men, join us in declaring this truth and in sharpening each other to become an original example of covering.

by Clarence Boyd on November 22nd, 2016

“In an age where more and more fathers are absent in the home, how important is the covering of a father? The role of fatherhood is changing so fast and being redefined so quickly that most people are not even aware of the changes. The average home today is perceived as a single-parent home, usually led by the mother. In fact, the general rule in the home is to prepare daughters for independence. This does not mean that she may not marry, but that she should not be solely dependent on any man.” (Endangered Masculinity, page 22)
Let it be said up front that regardless of the circumstances, God has not changed His mind.  Everything created by God was meant to be covered.  This still means that men were created to cover their wives and children. It is understood that this does not seem to be the case in light of research and reality today.  However, just because something has suffered setbacks does not mean that it is totally lost.  Although it is a fact that the many men are absent from their homes, it does not mean that men cannot be redeemed. The Word of God declares that it is the plan of God “to turn the hearts of the fathers to their children, and the hearts of the children to their fathers; or else I will come and strike the land with a curse.” (Mal. 4:6)
The question must be raised: “Do you feel that our land, our communities, even our nation is suffering under the curse that is the result of the absence of fathers in the home? Put another way, is the absence of covering contributing to the growing challenges related to the male man and the increasing confusion surrounding the whole concept of manhood in general? This question must be addressed by both fathers and sons, grandfathers and grandsons, by every man who is concerned about the fact that masculinity is under attack.  Will you join this discussion and help us find answers to this dilemma? Your input is valuable, but your joining the battle to preserve authentic manhood is imperative.  We look forward to your involvement and appreciate your input.